Key to happiness: Misery
Tuesday, January 1, 2008
As ironic as it can be, yes, misery is the answer to happiness. Quoted from Therapists from California State University, Northridge and Virginia Tech:
The key to a happy relationship could be accepting that some miserable times are unavoidable. Accepting these problems is better than striving for perfection.
To many, cultural fairytales and modern love stories are the perfect way for a relationship to bloom. Not blaming them though. It's only natural for them to have a mindset as such. For a realist, that sort of mindset is a big no-no. In fact, the pursuit of a relationship without any traffic congestions along the way may potentially damage you. And believe me, no insurance in the world would cover that.
How does this happen? Well, it's simple. Logically, trying to achieve something that is impossible (really, impossible. not using any euphemism here) will lead to failure. And strings of failures will lead to suffering, emotionally, and probably physically. This will then cause people to start focusing on the negative part of the relationship, hence, more disappointment and resentment. A fantasy, in that sense, will almost certain lead to a bitter ending, unless treated carefully in the middle of it.
Demanding perfection is not the way things work. It's sometimes true what people say, a successful relationship starts with a lie. And, don't be a hypocrite here, and tell me you never lie in your relationship. Everybody lies. So, what's the remedy for a topsy turvy relationship here? Simple, accept the imperfection. There will always be more difficult times. Couples need to build strength through understanding, to help them cope in the hard times, and at the same time, appreciate the good times.
So, what are you waiting for? Change your mindset and be prepared for upcoming disasters in your relationship. Things aren't always like in the movies. They tend to bend, really far from your imagination storyline. Learn to accept imperfection will always work, although, too much imperfection just means, he/she is not for you!
That's all folks!
Posted byAizad at 7:30 PM
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next time, wait.
what the heck does that mean? =\
weh... menarik... ;)
haha.. tq